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Source: Gay Health News  Dec 02, 2019

Bulimia, A Common Eating Disorders Among Gays

Bulimia, A Common Eating Disorders Among Gays
Source: Gay Health News  Dec 02, 2019
Guys have eating disorders, too. More and more men are developing eating disorders, with gay males being one of the highest risk groups for eating and body image issues. And while about only 9-12% of the male population is gay, up to 57% of eating disordered males are gay. Eating disorders are not just a girl thing.

For many in the gay community, gay pride may mask gay shame as more than 15% of gay and bi-sexual men struggle with some form of disordered eating. The pressures to achieve the so-called gay “ideal” physique ie a body that is both lean and muscular or skinny ( a newer trend) are enough to drive some into a dangerous relationship with their bodies, food, and exercise.



When shopping for designer brands that basically target gay men these days, they only have clothes that are made for guys with a small waist line. Was shocked the other day that a few male fashion magazines was now saying that that a 32 to 34 inch male waist is considered fat while younger guys with 27 to 29 waist lines were considered in!

The Already Added Stigma of Being Gay
Take in to consideration for a moment the larger context in which many gay men must live. In many countries, their marriages are not legal or they can be fired from a job simply for loving someone of the same sex. Their place of worship may label them as an abomination and their families may completely disown them.

Consider now the amount of shame gay males must carry and how terribly heavy that shame must feel. And eating disorders are exactly about that, heavy, weighty feelings. It begs the question: Where do all those feelings go?
 
The Value Of Looks
The gay subculture places a tremendous amount of value on looks and sexual attractiveness. What gets rewarded is being some-body, not necessarily being some-one. The body is “currency,” as Travis Mathews, director of the documentary “Do I Look Fat” once told me.

And in the gay culture, the body, like real currency, provides one with power, status and recognition. But too often the investment strategy is one that leads to high risk behaviors extreme dieting, bingeing, purging, excessive exercising that yield a return that can leave one emotionally and physically bankrupt.

Objectification of Male Bodies
Numerous research shows that the male body is sexually objectified within the gay culture, much like women’s bodies are in the straight culture. And with this sexual objectification comes obsessive body checking and comparing and a desire to make the cut and be approved as sexually desirable. But if you don’t meet the gay standard, then what?

Inability to measure up to the gay ideal can lead to the development of body shame. And body shame can lead one right into eating disorder behaviors in an attempt to deal with these heavy feelings and fears of being rejected by one’s peers.
 
Extreme Measures to Stave of Shame
To starve off these feelings of shame about one’s body, many turn to extreme dieting. But restricting food intake, which is harmful in unto itself, can also be a set up for a binge where massive amounts of calories are rapidly consumed in an attempt to make up for the protracted calorie loss.

What then surfaces is all of the guilt and even more shame and an intense fear of becoming “fat” and a failed gay. But a trip to the restroom or several hours at the gym tomorrow and a promise to oneself to keep dieting will take care of those feelings, or so one thinks. And thus the bulimic cycle is born.
 
Relationships Play A Role In  Bulimia
Sadly, Bulimia has also been shown to be connected to how a gay man feels within his relationships. Research shows that having unsatisfied friendships is a risk factor for bulimia. Another study indicated that not being happy in one’s romantic relationship also increased the likelihood for bulimic behaviors.

Gay men are often marginalized, and not having a solid social support system in place can certainly increase feelings of isolation and depression.

In order to fill the void and aching emptiness and to stuff down these strong negative feelings, some may turn to food as an emotional substitute, a surrogate of sorts, to ease the loneliness and to feel full.

And to ensure that his body does not become the symbol of failure in the gay society which would only lead to more isolation and loneliness compensatory behaviors are used to rid himself of the excessive calories.

A Vicious Negative Feedback Cycle
It is a cycle of secrecy and shame that can take on a parasitic life of its own as the bulimia attaches to its host and provides a pseudo sense of comfort within a community where the body becomes the battleground for one’s soul and identity.

For too many gay men this battle over his body starts at a very early age. Research shows 31 percent of gay men have a history of childhood sexual abuse. This same study also found that a history of childhood sexual abuse was related to bulimia.

Binging, purging, excessive exercising become the coping behaviors employed by a gay man as he struggles to manage the intense and overwhelming feelings of depression, anxiety, and shame that are a result of his being sexually traumatized.

Marginalized in an Already Marginalized Culture
Marginalized by many in our larger culture; pressures from within one’s own subculture to achieve the “ideal” body; loneliness and isolation; and high rates of sexual abuse. It is a perfect storm scenario for the development of eating disorders and for bulimia in particular.

All of us, whether we are gay or straight, a clinician or a layperson, or simply a caring Mom, Dad or sibling, can help by understanding the unique challenges a gay man struggles with.

Accepting a gay person for who he truly is as he steps further and further out of the safe yet suffocating confines of his closet and into the larger human family can help assuage some of the shame he may feel. Listen to his story. Connect with him. Validate his being someone. And encourage him to get the help he needs if he is struggling.

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